Hard WorkWell, my friends, it is time to talk turkey about the utter crap-storm that has been 2010.  Now, I have heard from a lot of you, telling me about what a terrible year this has been.  And I have been telling everyone to be patient (I’ll get to why in a minute).  But what I haven’t said much about is how difficult a year 2010 has been for me too.

I was recently inspired to confess my miseries (!) by my friend and marvelous coach, Michelle Casto, a.k.a. “Bright Michelle.”  You’ll find her brilliance at www.BrightLightCoach.com.  Michelle wrote this in a recent email to her friends, subscribers, and clients:

“I don’t know about you but 2010 has been one life-transforming year!  I went through a major financial crash, relationship break-up and moved two times, and it looks like I will be moving a third time in the next 30 days or so!”

(There’s good news for Michelle too, so don’t think she’s just whining.  No, she’s talking about why it’s good.)

She’s being overly kind but not inaccurate when she calls 2010 a “life-transforming year.”  Almost everyone I know has had something like Michelle’s experience:  major financial crashes, relationship break-ups, deaths of loved ones, moves (often not by choice), job changes, illness, and on and on.

I really like to be positive all the time, and I usually don’t share much with you about my woes.  My daughter says, “Stop enumerating your woes!  It just makes them worse!”  While I agree with her, it often seems that we have to get those woes out of us somehow.  And maybe that’s why I attracted Michelle’s inspiration to tell you about my woes.  I’m not going to tell all of them, just a few, so you have an idea that you and I may be in similar boats.

The main issue for me this year has been money, or more to the point, the lack thereof.  If you noticed me talking about moving this summer (which I did twice, and then some), I moved because of money, not being able to afford where I used to live.  My daughter and I stayed with a wonderful friend for a couple of months until we could get into a small apartment.  We left behind the home where my children grew up, and moved to my hometown, where the cost of living is lower than it was in Austin.  My older daughter went to grad school, as planned (she is on her own, bless her!), and my younger one came with me.  We left behind a number of important people, whom we have not been able to visit yet because of—yep, money or the lack thereof.  My younger daughter, who is college-aged, has not been able to afford school this year.  And along the way, we had to put down one of our beloved pets.

Now, like I said, that isn’t all of the crap that befell me this year, and I have to share some of the positives too:  I have wanted to move home since I left in 1983, so I am thrilled to be back.  I love our little apartment and the neighborhood.  Being here means that my daughter and I can participate in the community theatre, which is very active.  We’ve already been in one play and she is rehearsing for another (while she job-hunts, of course).  And the community college here offers grants to any student who wants to attend college but cannot afford it.  My daughter hopes to attend there in January.  And we are geographically closer to my parents, so we get to see them more than we have in years.

And that’s part of my happy crap-storm.  Sound familiar?

Now back to you and the rest of the world:  Look around you.  Everything seems to be in upheaval, changing drastically, old methods and systems are falling away…

Fortunately, there is good news about all of this.  And this is why I’ve been telling everyone to just hang on, the roller coaster ride is coming to an end soon, and it will be sooner rather than later.  The good news is that all of this break-down makes room for new and better methods and systems.  Extend that to relationships, jobs, feelings, situations of all kinds, and we can look forward to something wonderful.  Yes, just like “old” Dave tells “young” Dave at the end of “2001:  A Space Odyssey.”

I am personally witnessing several people making great progress, seeing the proverbial ending of their crap-storms!  One of my friends is an image consultant and personal shopper, a business that is typically very hard to make a go of, especially in a “down economy.”  I talked to her the other day and she has added event planning to her services—“I’m booked through the end of the year!”—has been hired by a boutique to help with training the associates and buying, has several new personal clients…  In short, she’s swamped with work!  In a business that should not be doing well!

Another friend is a Realtor® who has worked her butt off for little reward all her life.  She recently met a client who is about to buy a half-million-dollar home, the most expensive my Realtor® friend has ever sold.

And these are just a couple of examples.  Want some advice?  Here’s what I’m doing:  staying as happy as possible.  When I feel worried about the rent or the electric bill, I take a break and think the happiest things I can think!  There are many items that need money from me, and I am taking it one day at a time.  A lot is going unpaid right now, but we have food to eat and a roof over our heads.  Oh, sure, I miss shopping, but I know it will come back.

If you follow the Law of Attraction, you know that your thoughts are very powerful.  Use them to your advantage.

And remember the good news:  all of this break-down is making room for the new and the better!  Yes, it’s been a rip-off-the-Band-Aid year, there’s no question, but now we can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

And I will let you know just as soon as my situation improves—it’ll be right about the time yours does!  (11-2-10)

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