Pocket Full of Change

These four sets of coins show the things I have always wanted, backed with their opposites. Rich/poor, fat/thin, married/single, popular/unpopular.

You may have other coins, like employed/unemployed, healthy/sick, happy/depressed, even parent/childless. That last one can be a bit tricky to change spiritually, if you are having fertility problems, but everything is energy, so let’s keep going.

I tend to think or believe that I haven’t had the “bright” sides, but that’s not true. For example, my angels guided me to see this: I’m married now—how did I manifest it or receive it? How did I activate it in my experience? I was single a very long time.

The first thing I realize is that I was focused on not being married for a long time. When my first husband died, I felt strongly that I needed to be married, so I got married right away. I quickly discovered that I would much rather be single than married to the wrong man. Divorced him, toute suite.

A year and a half later, I started dating a man whom I soon fell in love with. I wanted to marry him for the entire seven years that we dated, until he dumped me to marry someone else. (His main reason for not marrying me was that I was poor—one of my other coins. Hoo-boy.)

After he dumped me, I declared that I would never again want someone who didn’t want me—and that has served me well in several instances, including friendships. (Are you taking notes?)

I found that, apart from often not having enough money (because it can be hard for a woman to make a good living unless she is a doctor or lawyer or other professional), being single was fine. When I thought about it, I focused on the good things about it, like choosing whatever I wanted—on TV, to buy, to cook or not to cook, to go and do whatever—without having to consult or even consider someone, especially someone who was a terrible husband, like my second one.

I processed the hell out of my past romantic relationships, too, and learned all I could about myself, how I could behave differently, and what I wanted to give and share. And receive. By “processed”, I mean that I scrutinized incidents and conversations and arguments, all to see from my new objective point of view what I could have done differently to show the Universe that I loved and valued myself, not only him. (More notes here.)

I made a couple of different lists of characteristics I wanted in a mate. I eventually tore up and threw away the first one and I posted the other one on Facebook. Not very long after the post, I met Don.

This is what my angels guided me through about the coins. The pairings are sides of one coin. You can’t be both at once, not rich and poor, for example. (Although you can be in between.)

I’ve always wanted to be rich, thin, married, and popular. But I am instead broke, fat, and unpopular—but now married!

And that’s why I am using that married/single coin to figure out how I came to settle on the “wrong” side of the other coins and how to change them. Is it because I liked and embraced being single, the “dark” side of that coin? Have I focused too much on the “dark” sides of the other coins? Does fear have anything to do with it?

Let’s take a look at popular/unpopular. When I was in junior high and high school, all I wanted was to be popular (and thin, but that’s a different coin—and I wasn’t even fat!). By the time I was a senior, I was probably what most people would consider popular: I had plenty of friends and a lot of people knew who I was. But I was never in the “popular crowd”, so I thought I was unpopular—or maybe “not popular”.

In the intervening years, I mostly have felt that I didn’t have enough friends—although I did feel popular for a couple of years when I led a large networking group in Austin. Also, I had a lot of work with my first business—I did not equate that with popularity, but I should have—but I have not had nearly enough clients since then. And in my life now, “popularity” equals “lots of clients”.

Popularity is still important in terms of clients and work. Those “likes” on my Facebook fan page are paramount. How does “Madame Not-Even-Any-Good Psychic” have 10,000 likes? I don’t know that answer any more now than I knew how someone became a cheerleader in high school. If I did, I would have bottled it by now and made a mint!

Speaking of unpopular, last year, two groups of friends dumped me—turned on me, even. One was my little clutch from late high school/college—the really tight besties. The other was a bunch of childhood friends who had always been in my life. Both hurt.

I’ve known for some time that I always thought I was fat when I wasn’t. I was adorable when I was younger and thinner! (I am actually fat now. Even the doctor says so.) Most of us have this trouble, never thin enough, right? But I have been mostly in body-acceptance mode for about 10 years or so. That “fat thing” is so very deeply ingrained in Western women, it’s hard to overcome. If I go by my “married coin”, my acceptance and even love for my fat body should do the trick, right? Well, as of this writing, I’m down ten pounds. Shrug.

Now, for the “rich/poor” coin. I have been comfortable (never “rich”) at times in my life, but I have mostly focused on the times of struggle, even discounting the prosperous times as exceptions, too few and far between. I’m not sure what the reality is, as I have been in the “poor” zone for a very long time now. I fear/ed poverty and struggle and not-enough-ness…

And maybe fear is the key. According to the Law of Attraction, what you focus on expands. Being afraid is one way of focusing your vibration. I was afraid of being single when Tim died, but not at all when I divorced Number Two. I came to embrace and even like being single, in large part because I knew how bad it was to be married to the wrong person. I don’t want to be single now only because I love Don and want to be with him. But I’m not afraid of being single.

So…

  • I’m not afraid of being fat.
  • I’m not afraid of being poor.
  • I’m not afraid of being unpopular.

Of course, with affirmations, we use positive words:

  • I embrace being fat.
  • I embrace being poor.
  • I embrace being unpopular.

Whew! Heady stuff.

Next: What’s good or “to like” about being fat, poor, and unpopular? Maybe you can extrapolate these for your own coins.

  • Fat = still pretty, more feminine/womanly, empathetic to other fat women, might help others overcome their fear of fatness, will survive and ice age, and won’t ever freeze to death
  • Poor = makes you get creative (with food, clothes, décor), you find out who loves you unconditionally (and who doesn’t—no, really, people will abandon or hate you when you are poor), you really appreciate bargains and cheap entertainment—which you can continue when you have more money too
  • Unpopular = plenty of “me-time”? Appreciate yourself? Make changes that make you more likeable? Get creative with how to meet/reach people? Obviously, this one is still tripping me up.

Start off with embracing what is now and what you’ve got. While you are “haunted” by your fears of the “dark” side of your coin, your coins cannot change.

Appreciate moments that were what you like, if any. Remember a time you had that and enjoy the memories, being careful not to be resentful that those times are no more.

And finally, look forward to improvements, but don’t depend on them for your happiness. Let your happiness stand on its own, enjoying and giving thanks for what is here and now, remembering and cherishing the good things that used to be, and smiling at your imagination of the “bright” side of the coin that is coming.

And get ready—those coins can flip very quickly!

 

Oh, Goodie, Another Growth Opportunity

problem-tinyLet’s just say I’m in a growth spurt. Nah, not getting taller and I HOPE I’m not gaining weight! But my spirit is growing and it can be just as painful as a child’s physical growing pains. But you come out older and wiser on the other side! Right? You do, don’t you?

Here’s part of it. I ran across this old channeled message the other day, one that I had channeled from Universal Angels and Guides, or maybe just my own. Or yours. Valid no matter what. “Your problem is not what you’ve done, but what you are failing to do now because of it.”

Damn.

How is what I’ve done in the past–perhaps something I am now feeling regret about?–affecting my ability to do something that I really want to do now?

In a very material, real-world sense, an example is: if you didn’t finish college, is that keeping you from going for the job you want now? In a psychological sense, is breaking up with someone in your past affecting your ability to give your all to relationships in the present? And in a more spiritual sense, if you haven’t lived your best life in the past, are you now stuck with it?

This applies so very much to a situation I am dealing with right now, and it opens up so many other windows on Areas Where I Need to Grow. Ugh.

I say ugh, although I certainly do appreciate the messages (or “lessons,” if you prefer–I do not prefer) when they come through and sink into my heart and soul. Thus, today, I am thinking about moving forward in spite of past actions, because I know that I have allowed those past actions to hold me back. And I don’t want to be held back anymore. Especially not by my own dumb thoughts.

How about you?

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2016: Does It Theme Hot in Here?

Vision Board January 2016Do you “do” New Year’s Resolutions, goal-setting, intention-creating, or any other kind of inspired planning?

I’m not that big on them, actually. And I have recently read that some people refuse to do them because it creates unnecessary pressure and disappointment. Maybe that’s you too.

But I DO like to come up with a theme or main idea for each New Year. For example, for 2014, I chose “enthusiasm”.

And WOW.

Whether I created it or predicted it (does it matter?), ENTHUSIASM showed up for me hugely in 2014! From feeling it myself, to having events occur that made me feel it, to meeting a very enthusiastic man who was just waiting to become my True Love, enthusiasm was everywhere I looked.

This was the first time my theme was really obviously successful for me. I think I chose “change” for 2013, because I was pretty dang sick of the s**t-storms that preceded it. And things did change considerably–I got a new job and rode a roller coaster emotionally and financially. So that was fun.

My theme for 2015 was “Help Others”. I honestly can’t say whether I did a lot or “enough” (what’s “enough”?) helping last year, but keeping the theme in mind every day helped me to remember to make helping others a priority.

This year, I once again asked my angels, during my usual shower prayer time (also known as “spray and pray”), what theme would be good for me in 2016. And this is what we came up with together:

Expansion.

What will this mean for me in 2016? Well, that remains to be seen, but I hope it will mean expansion of my work (to help more others!), expansion of my physical home (we hope to move to the ‘burbs from a condo in the city), expansion of my already-deep love for my sweetheart, and more. I hope it does NOT mean expansion of my waistline, as that already occurred in 2015, thankyouverymuch.

As with every year’s theme, I will keep the idea of “expansion” in mind as I go through each day. And I will notice when the theme shows up in real and concrete ways. I know that’s all I have to do. The angels have spoken.

If you want to do something like this, and choose a theme, try asking your angels to give you the right idea. Yes, you may certainly make a vision board (or vision card) as shown above, a list of potential words and phrases, and/or a fist to determine your theme. But I find that simple is usually best. So here is your script:

“Hello, angels/guides/helpers/God/Universe/sub-conscious. I want a theme for 2016. What do you got?”

And then shut up and listen.

Much love, peace, and HELP to you in the coming year and beyond! Love and kisses, Susan K.

Vision Cards – Like Vision Boards, But Portable!

vision cardsWhere do I get these amazingly wonderful ideas? From my angels, of course! You probably get them too, right?

Here is my latest-and-greatest angel/guide download, and I am having a great time with it.

Vision boards became popular several years ago with the rise in interest in the Law of Attraction. By creating a poster with things that you want on it, you draw those things into your life. There are lots of great stories about how effective vision boards can be. I have made a number of them over the years, when I was feeling extra-creative (like I am now–what is up with that?).

During one of my numerous moves over recent years, I ran across a travel-themed vision board I had made. When I made it, I didn’t have any plans (or money) for any travel, and I put places on my vision board that I didn’t even have much great desire to go, such as New York City and Paris. They were just popular travel spots that I thought I “should” visit. When I unearthed the travel vision board, I discovered that I had indeed visited a number of the places on it, including New York City and Paris! And most of those trips came to be via something other than me having the money to do it. They were gifts and special offers.

Vision Board January 2015 - CopyBack in January of this year, I created a vision board for 2015, but I did it in a photo editing software. (www.picmonkey.com) Working in this medium can feel less creative to people who prefer working with their hands, but it was very satisfying for me. Here’s the result.

Without digging any further into the phenomenon of vision boards, I offer this simple suggestion: shrink it down. The nice thing about vision cards, such as the ones I created, shown in the picture above, is that you can carry them in your wallet or purse, you can put them under your pillow, you can stick them in a little box or book. Vision boards tend to be bulky, and vision cards are completely portable. That way, you can refer to them any time you want, and storage is simple.

I envision a world where everyone creates vision cards to make their lives better! And we put them into photo albums, which we stuff onto our bookshelves, where we can go back and look at them any time we like! And we’ll say, “Oh, look what I created! I brought that happy thing into being!”

Happy visioning!

An Angel Card for You (23)

Mermaids and DolphinsHere is an angel card to guide your day. I am using my favorite deck, Doreen Virtue’s “Magical Mermaids and Dolphins.” Whenever you may read this, the message is for you now.

Waves of Prosperity – New abundance and exciting opportunities wash over you now.

And my interpretation for you – Well, this is always exciting! The idea of prosperity rolling over me in waves! Woohoo! Who doesn’t love prosperity?

Now, right now, this could pertain to you receiving your tax refund. (I hope you didn’t have to pay–ugh.) But remember to think of prosperity, abundance, and opportunities as being both money and other-than-money. My feeling for you this time is that it is more about money than other. Specifically, look for an increase in your current salary or that of someone in your household (spouse, etc.), and expect extra opportunities to bring in money. For example, you might hold a garage sale soon. Or someone asks you to speak to their group–for a fee.

This time, this card represents an expansion in your life around money. The increases and opportunities will taper off in a few months, but you will still be ahead of where you are now.

Please let me know how this card affected you.

An Angel Card for You (21)

Mermaids and DolphinsHere is an angel card to guide your day. I am using my favorite deck, Doreen Virtue’s “Magical Mermaids and Dolphins.” Whenever you may read this, the message is for you now.

Worthiness – Know that you deserve to receive good in all ways.

And my interpretation for you – I usually offer up my “worthy vs. deserving” lecture with this one, but I’m tired of it, so let me make a declaration:

You are worthy of love, joy, and abundance.

Yes, you are. You may not feel any of those three things, but it isn’t because you are not worthy of them. It is only because you are holding yourself back from them, such as by believing you are not worthy. If you did not have value and worth, you simply would not be here.

Be kind to yourself today and every day.